Until very recently, if you said you had a “hookup” in Oakland people usually thought it was for automatic weapons or crack.But (THANK YOU HIPSTERS) the newly-gentrified East Bay is now the nation’s 21st-most-active Tinder market, and over 35% of its population is single.However, what’s actually going on underneath the pop-style commentary and tabloid tales of ‘cougars’ and their ‘cubs’?

One of the biggest issues that she and her friends have with online dating isn’t so much the people they meet, but which site they meet them on.

In the book they discuss the pros and cons of the different options facing them. With thousands of new apps and sites being created faster than we can download them, it’s hard to know where to start.

At 2.62 bars per 1,000 residents, it barely cracks the top 30.

But with nearly 40% of the population single, 8.6% more women than men, and the 8th-largest market for Tinder, who cares -- you don’t really need them.

She enters my life like the dozen women who came before her and the hundreds who will follow: in the palm of my hand, flickering on the touchscreen of my phone. Being nearly a decade older, I find her youth a bit distressing. Further stoking my curiosity is the knowledge that Michelle is three miles from here, which has the effect of making her seem more real than the catalog resembles, blurring the line between fantasy and reality, pixel and potential.

But mainly what I'm drawn to in Michelle is her looks: brown hair blown straight, white jeans that seem to have found their way onto her slender frame via skin graft, a face punctuated by the sort of vaguely suggestive grin made culturally ubiquitous by the selfie.For our in-depth analysis of the cougar phenomenon, read on...There’s been an enormous amount of media coverage centred on older women dating younger men over the last decade.As one of the leading dating sites for mature singles, there's no shortage of older women dating younger men on Elite Singles.With 100% verified profiles and members using our premium service to look for long-lasting love, our site has become the go-to destination for finding a serious romance with a younger partner safely and securely.The now well-known term wasn’t a reference to the Chinese calendar; rather, it was a bordering-on-crass idiom coined to define 40-plus women with a predilection for younger gentlemen.