The last time I was in the dating scene was the first half of 2008. Diving back in was not something I was looking forward to so I did my homework to come up with a plan. Sure it can be fun, but it can also be a pain in the ass.

Trust can often be broken during a divorce and, even though you weren’t the one who broke that trust, you need to be aware that the damage may take time to repair.

The bonds between married exes can be harder to break than those between unmarried couples.

Here is a little of what I learned during this stage (not all of these statements ended up being true):1. It is not uncommon to never talk to the person before you meet them in person.2.

Women aged 26 to 34 will want to have fun, check out restaurants, travel and enjoy your time together.

My first step was to catch up with a few of my serial single buddies.

I needed them to fill me in on apps, dating “expectations” and to be perfectly honest I needed a pep talk.

Seek counsel from older, wiser women who have succeeded in their marriages.

Never forget or take for granted that your man chose you.

To be honest, I never really enjoyed dating at all.

The smartphone clearly changed the dating landscape, apps are plentiful and as I got back into the game in late 2014, I was clueless.

Women ages 35 to 40 will want to fast track the relationship because they are looking for a husband and kids, or maybe they just want kids and not you as a husband (yikes! Lastly women age 40 are confident in their careers and life and really know how to treat a man, have fun and don’t have the interest in playing games.3. Before I get into my experience with the different apps, I want to share some of the things I learned after going out on lots of first dates and not enough second dates.1. If things aren’t going well you spent only dollars and you are free to leave after 45 minutes.2.