Equality Wheel A strong dating relationship is based on equality and respect, not power and control.

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Many of these can be happening at any one time, all as a way to enforce power within the relationship.

Think of the wheel as a diagram of the tactics your abusive partner uses to keep you in the relationship.

The Power and Control Wheel is a tool that helps explain the different ways an abusive partner can use power and control to manipulate a relationship.

Click on a spoke of the wheel to learn more about one of the forms of abuse, including examples and red flags. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this publication / program / exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, Office on Violence Against Women.

A common cycle of abuse begins to take hold once domestic violence starts in a relationship.

Your partner apologizes, you lower your guard, and over time, the violence rears its ugly head once again.

You will notice that the center, or hub, of the wheel is "Power and Control." This is at the very heart of this wheel because power and control are the reasons abusers choose to use violence and other tactics against their dating partners.

They want complete power over and control of their partners.

This wheel represents a snapshot of what a violent teen dating relationship looks like.