I know a woman who dates an older man, and he jumps from profession to profession while trying to make a career in music take off.But the guy I’m dating is focused on taking his career to the next level.The men came from diverse cultural and religious backgrounds.

Early on I used to have a fit every week about what he could do to make more time for me, but at a certain point, after some compromising, you end up just trying to be supportive and patient.

Besides, I wouldn’t want the finger pointed at me for having a part in keeping him from doing what he needs to do to get ahead.

As a follow-up to our article, here are more thoughts on navigating the often tricky waters of dating someone who is beginning to date after grieving the untimely loss of their partner or spouse – from Members of our own Widow/Widowers community here on e Harmony Advice, in their own words.

As you’ll see from the passages below, everyone’s reaction to their circumstance, opinions and experiences are going to be different, so it’s important to keep in mind the specific needs of your match as you progress.

Dating an older man can teach you a lot, especially about yourself (and what you do and don’t want in a partner), but it’s not always the easiest of relationships. Just in case you’re thinking of getting serious with a fella quite a few years older or even decades older than you, here are a few things you might want to keep in mind before you get it crackin’.

Depending on how old the man you’re seeing is, he might have certain goals he’s trying to finish accomplishing.Sudden deaths, on the other hand, were very traumatic, leaving a man at least temporary immobilized. Most felt they had at least some control over their lives.This was especially true for younger men, who felt that in addition to losing their wives, they lost the future. For example, "Clarence," 93, who lived alone, established a comfortable daily routine.No one else can tell you what you are feeling, so only by being in touch with your own emotions can you know if you’re ready.Everyone mourns differently, so widows/widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the speed of their recovery.”“Too many variables to say what is right for anyone the old year thing is probably wise as a minimum. I didn’t quite make the 1 year wait to date thing…and I made a mess, I think I will use 5 years to remarry as a minimum.“This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women.Instead, follow these tips for dating widows and follow your heart.